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Overcoming the Loneliness That Accompanies Divorce

Many a divorce client has experienced loneliness. If you haven’t yet then you likely will. Hopefully you won’t delve into drugs, alcohol or unhealthy relationships as a way to cope with your loneliness. Here are some tips that we have seen work for other divorce clients when it comes to overcoming the terrible loneliness often associated with divorce:

1. Join a divorce support group. Most communities have a divorce support group which can be hugely beneficial in talking out the emotions that accompany divorce with someone other than your close family and friends. The people in your group are going through exactly what you are going through.

2. Rediscover your hobbies and interests. Join a gym. Take a class. Volunteer. Do something that interests you and that requires you to be around other people. It is difficult to be lonely when you are fully engaged in an activity that you enjoy.

3. Spend quality time with your children. Oftentimes children of divorcing parents are lonely too. Find fun things to do with your children and/or grandchildren so that the focus isn’t on the divorce every day.

4. Find creative ways to make extra money. Most people going through a divorce are experiencing financial hardship. This is a great time to pick up an extra job, start an online business, or find other ways to earn extra cash to help pay those bills you were used to sharing with your spouse or to pay your attorney.

5. Make friends.This may involve reaching out to old friends you haven’t seen in a while or inviting acquaintances you would like to be friends with to join you in an activity that you both enjoy.

Whatever you do remember that a life well lived—one full of love and happiness is the best revenge. You have a new chapter in life waiting for you…it is up to you to write the pages of that next great novel.